“I don’t know if I continue, I’m not supposed to love you, I’m not supposed to care, I’m not supposed to live my life wishing you were there, I’m not supposed to wonder where you are or what you do…. I’m sorry I cant help myself, I’m in love with you…”

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I am an eighteen year-old male with a four year old problem.
I am in love with my one of my best friends. At least I think I am in love with her.
When I first met her, I really didn't like her. She was always so annoying. But then we got to know each other better and she sort of grew on me.
Not very long after I started to get to know her, I started to think about her romantically. Soon after, we became like brother and sister, always together. And my feelings have done nothing but grown since then.
It took me about a year to work up the courage to tell her about the feelings I had for her. When I finally did, she told me that she already knew it. But I just can't shake this feeling.
Several times the pain I feel has grown so strong that I needed to take a 'vacation' from her, which just gave my mind time to fantasize about how great she is and how someday she has to give me a shot.
But when I am away from her for so long, I miss her to the point where the only thing I want to do is be with her.
I have actually cried about this almost a hundred times.
The only advice I have gotten so far is to 'get over it', and if I could, I would. But I can't.
I think that the reason I can't get over this is because I can't let go of the hopes that some day, she may be mine. And there I go again with the 'ifs'.
I'm sure that you get alot of mail, and whats going on in my world doesn't affect you, but please, help me.

Thank you,
NikeRul'Z

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Dear NikeRul'Z,

I know this is hard and painful, but we can't force someone to love us just because we love them.
At some level, we all have to realize that the right person will come along for us.
While we are waiting for this magical event, we have to work on ourselves non-stop to be the best person we can possibly be while we are waiting.
That means doing things to build our self-confidence by succeeding in our life activities.
If Ms. M just wants to be your friend, it actually may be too painful for you to hang out with her right now.
You do need to make some new friends and actually ask some other girls out, even though right now it may just be going through the motions. Get involved with new people and new activities and try to build a life separate from her.
She may even look at the new you and think, "Hey, he's hot!"
Wasting your life mooning after her will just make you seem pathetic to her and you don't want that.
You could play a little harder to get and she may even start wondering why you are not panting over her as much as you used to.
The more you move on, the more appealing you will become, not just to her, but to everybody else.
"NikeRul'Z", I am right. Please give this a try.

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

Im holding on to get through this
Aiming to be a man better than this
Im dreaming high but still looking down
What will it take?
How many times around?
Till i give it all to you
Im falling away
Then i find you waiting
To fall in love again
Fall in, slip away
Picking up the pieces of yesterday
Its a hard time to fall in line
Wishing i could say ill never fall away
I give myself to be set free
Make me a better man, in spite of me
Im dreaming high but still looking down
What will it take?
How many times around?
Till i give it all to you
Fall in
And find you waiting
To fall in love again
In love again